The 11 Rudest Things A Guest Can Do In Someone Else’s House : According To Etiquette Experts.
House Guests became a trend again after the isolation of the pandemic. Many of us rediscovered the joy of socializing with friends at home, from casual hangouts to intimate dinner parties.
But just because you’re invited to someone’s space doesn’t mean you have free rein to behave however you please. Etiquette experts weigh in on some of the most common rude behaviors when visiting someone else’s home, and share tips on how to avoid them.
1. Touching and Moving Things Without Permission
“Make yourself at home” doesn’t mean you should literally start making changes in someone’s house. Etiquette expert Jodi R.R. Smith advises, “Keep your feet off the furniture, and don’t open the fridge unless you’re invited to do so.” Always ask before touching objects or moving things around, especially if you’re a guest and not a close friend.
2. Expecting a Tour
While some hosts are happy to show off their home, don’t take it for granted. Etiquette expert Nick Leighton reminds us, “Wait to be invited to take a tour of the home.” If the host doesn’t offer, don’t start wandering around on your own.
3. Overstaying Your Welcome
One of the top complaints from hosts is guests who linger too long. Recognize when it’s time to leave—if you sense the party winding down, suggest moving to a different venue if you’re still in the mood to hang out. Pay attention to body language for cues, and keep an eye on the time.
4. Hiding a Mess
If you spill something or break an item, don’t try to hide it. Fess up right away. Smith advises that even minor accidents should be reported promptly to avoid unnecessary stress. Honesty is key to maintaining a good relationship with your host.
5. Snooping Around
While curiosity might get the better of you, a good guest would resist the temptation to peek in cabinets, closets, or medicine cabinets. “Some hosts put glass marbles in their medicine cabinets to catch snoopers,” says Leighton. Don’t risk the embarrassment of being caught snooping.
6. Bringing an Uninvited Plus-One
Don’t show up with someone else unless the host has specifically invited them. Even casual gatherings can have specific headcount limits, so it’s always best to ask ahead of time if you can bring a plus-one.
7. Sharing Dietary Restrictions at the Last Minute
If you have dietary restrictions, inform your host ahead of time, not just when you sit down for the meal. Being upfront about your needs helps the host plan accordingly.
8. Feeding the Host’s Pets
Your love for animals might tempt you to share your food with the host’s dog, but always ask first. The dog may have allergies or be on a special diet, so respect the host’s rules when it comes to feeding pets.
9. Disrespecting Shoe Rules
Many hosts prefer that guests remove their shoes at the door. Be prepared for this request by carrying socks or slippers. If you’re a fashionista who likes to keep shoes on, let your host know in advance that you’re not comfortable removing them.
10. Interfering with the Setup
Don’t rearrange the seating or mess with the dinner setup. Whether it’s switching place cards or rearranging the furniture, respect your host’s efforts and plans.
11. Showing Up Empty-Handed
A small gift goes a long way as a guest. A bottle of wine, a bouquet of flowers, or a thoughtful homemade treat can show your appreciation for the invitation. It doesn’t need to be expensive—it’s the thought that counts.
Final Good Guest Tips:
- Respect your host’s space: From furniture to personal items, always ask before touching anything.
- Know when to leave: Don’t overstay your welcome; be mindful of the time.
- Offer a token of appreciation: Bringing a small gift shows gratitude and good manners.
These simple tips will ensure you’re always a thoughtful and well-behaved guest. Respecting your host’s space, preferences, and efforts is the key to building lasting relationships and making social gatherings enjoyable for everyone.
